Signature Rituals
Complimentary rituals shared for personal practice, reflection, and seasonal magic.
Friday the 13th: Reclaiming the Sacred
For generations, Friday the 13th has been surrounded by superstition and fear. Popular culture often paints it as a day of misfortune, bad luck, or ominous energy.
Yet historically, this day held a very different meaning.
Friday was named for Freya, the Norse goddess of love, magic, fertility, and intuitive wisdom. In many ancient traditions, Friday was considered a sacred day connected to feminine power and spiritual insight.
The number 13 also carries ancient symbolism. A lunar year contains thirteen full moon cycles, and for centuries this number reflected the natural rhythms of the moon and the cycles of women’s bodies.
Together, Friday and the number thirteen form a powerful pairing — one associated with divine feminine energy, transformation, and the balance between light and shadow.
Rather than a day to fear, Friday the 13th can be seen as an invitation to pause, reflect, and reconnect with your deeper intuition.
It is a beautiful time for shadow work, the gentle process of bringing awareness to the parts of ourselves that are asking to be understood, healed, or transformed.
Incense Blend
Burning herbs has long been used as a way to focus intention, cleanse space, and support spiritual practice.
This blend is designed to balance the heart, transformation, protection, and intuitive awareness.
Ingredients + Energetic Qualities
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Rose petals - divine feminine energy, compassion, heart opening
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Cinnamon – courage, warmth, and transformative fire
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Dried orange peel – vitality, brightness, and energetic clearing
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Thai basil - sacred protection, devotion, purification
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Lavender – calm, balance, and intuitive awareness
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Mugwort – dreams, ancestral connection, and spiritual thresholds
Preparing the Incense
1. Combine the ingredients
Place a small pinch of each dried ingredient into a bowl. You don’t need precise measurements — let your intuition guide the balance. The amounts pictured here make about ¼ cup.
If you don’t have every ingredient, use what you have. Even one or two herbs will work.
For the orange peel, tear or cut it into very small pieces before grinding. This makes it easier to work with and saves your hands some effort. You can grind everything with a mortar and pestle or a spice grinder. As you grind the herbs, focus gently on your intention for the ritual.
When finished, the mixture should resemble coarse sand.
2. Burning the incense
You can burn the incense on a charcoal disc (click here for charcoal disc instructions).
If you’re like me and can’t handle the smoke, an oil burner works beautifully. These come in both electric and candle versions.
Add a small amount of a light oil (like vegetable oil) to the burner cup, leaving room for the incense. Place a small amount of the mixture into the oil and light a tea light underneath.
You probably won’t see smoke, but the scent should begin to appear within a minute or two. It’s much more subtle than incense burned on charcoal. My burner is very small, but I can smell it clearly from about three feet away. If I leave the room and come back, I notice the fragrance right away.
There probably won't be any smoke but you should begin to smell it in a minute or two. Using an oil burner vs a charcoal disc won't give you the same intense scent. It is much more subtle. My burner is very small but I can smell it now and I am about 3' from it. Earlier I left the room and I could smell it upon entering, but I could not smell it in the hallway.
3. Using the incense
Let the scent fill the space as you reflect on your intention for transformation. I like to light the incense first and then do any writing, then the ritual. That way, the scent is with me through the whole preparation and ritual. I usually make a little extra to have for later. Sometimes, I will burn more when I feel inspired or when I feel led to do another similar ritual. If you do make extra, store it in a clean glass jar with a screw on metal lid. I label mine with the date, the ritual I made it for, and the ingredients. It will keep quite awhile (think years) sealed well in glass.
A Simple Friday the 13th Ritual
This ritual is intentionally simple. Its purpose is not complexity, but awareness. Begin by creating a quiet space where you can sit undisturbed for a few moments. If you have an altar or a place where you keep meaningful objects, you may wish to sit there.
Light a candle.
Take several slow breaths and allow your body to settle. Let your attention move inward.
Ask yourself a simple question:
What part of my life is ready to transform?
This may be a pattern, a fear, a belief, or a habit that has been quietly asking for change. Write your answer on a small piece of paper. Read it out loud. Hold the paper briefly in the candle smoke and say:
I honour the lessons that brought me here.
I release what no longer belongs in my future.
Thank you.
You may keep the paper somewhere meaningful as a reminder of your intention, or safely burn it to symbolise release.
Allow yourself a few quiet moments afterward to simply sit with the energy of the ritual.
Walking with Both Light and Shadow
Shadow work is not about rejecting parts of ourselves. It is about listening to them.
The parts of us that ask for attention often hold wisdom, resilience, and untapped strength. Friday the 13th offers a quiet reminder that transformation does not happen by avoiding the shadow — it happens by meeting it with awareness and compassion.
When we do this, what once felt like darkness becomes guidance, insight, and growth.
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